We end our inferiority complex
Anyone who resents and fights for everything and anything, is the bearer of an inferiority complex. DeRose
I just returned from a season of six weeks in New York. One of the things that impressed me most is that people ask permission, deculpas and say thanks for everything, but for everything.
Near where I stayed (the place where I felt so well that he called home), there was 24 I went to shop for small purchases. As the Christmas season was approaching, they began to sell the trees to be decorated, that there are natural. Were exposed on the outside, occupying a part of the sidewalk, which limited the passage to a person and half a time.
Empire State Building seen from Top of the Rock. Photo: Nilzo Andrade Jr.
Whenever someone shared with me the ride tight, apologized. Not to have touched me or done anything to justify the request. He was upset because, in a certain way, the free path of another. If we were talking in the street, occupying the sidewalk, and someone needs to go in the middle, asked permission or apology. If I turned back and someone was blocking my way (!), Apologize again. If someone needs to have their freight while researching something in the supermarket, asked permission. And the most beautiful, without being subservient. All winning with poise and polite.
Today I went to the market near my home in Curitiba. I live in a neighborhood very well, which means that people who attend this type of establishment are good cultural level. The regulars pushed me, cut the front and blocked the passage. You know how many apologies, and thank you license? No. Lack of education? No, they are individuals who had access to good schools.
When I read an article today DeRose , came an insight. We Brazilians have an inferiority complex. He keeps us from being polished. He makes us aggressive and insolent when walking on the sidewalk, by occupying common places and also while driving. We were colonized and still not got rid of this feeling. For us, apologize, and thank license is an act of kneeling. We are inferior to be polite with people.
Of course there are exceptions, you may think. But it would be nice if the exception was the opposite?
We are at a historic moment in our political and economic projection is leading us to the level of great savings. Next year, we will contribute to raise the average global GDP growth. Studies show that we are a third world economy in 2050. It will be so beautiful if we can be all that the world using the words thank you, excuse me and excuse me.
Excuse me, now I'll eat my rice and beans with French fries . After all, I love this country.
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December 17, 09 at 18:20
His articles fascinate me!
I like to accompany them and reflect on them over time, then somehow you contribute to my improvement and personal development.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and leverage me to new heights of awareness.
Big kiss from an admirer
Renata
December 17, 09 at 18:46
How beautiful to know, Rê! I admire him for his graciousness and education. You are a great example of finesse for all of us.
Kisses and see you soon!
Nilzo Andrade Jr.
December 17, 09 at 20:52
I loved it! Plain text, while light and direct.
I think the same way and you expressed so well! Very good!
Kisses.
Leticia
December 18, 09 at 00:51
Nilzo, going abroad has its charms, after civilization has some codes and courtesies that we do not see so easily here. Would you like to do a little better or a parallel pardoxo ... I had the opportunity to go to cities in the Amazon and theoretically they would not have access to eduacação and would be simple, and there found the same courtesy and education NY. I believe that courtesy dies within each one, the result of a settlement aimed at bringing resources to the metropole. Very different from emrica north where they were building a new life.
Nice article, made long time since I visited the CWB's friends ...
Big hug!
Hemerson
December 18, 09 at 9:35
This is very true, why intendia never to feel inferior, without effort, to be polite. In some cases this was subtle, but it still bothered me. Thank you for spending your experiences! I will rethink my attitudes.
Tabatha
December 18, 09 at 10:06
How nice to find people who think like us. Kisses for you, Lee!
Nilzo Andrade Jr.
December 18, 09 at 14:38
A fine example, Hemerson! Thank you for your contribution. Big hug and see you soon!
Nilzo Andrade Jr.
December 18, 09 at 14:41
Glad to have contributed to his reflection, Tabatha. A warm hug from Nilzo.
Nilzo Andrade Jr.
December 18, 09 at 14:42
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January 17, 10 at 15:03
Hello Nilzo, his words inspire ... I'll pay more attention to my behavior ....
Thank you!
Thi
Thiago Goncalves
18 January 10 at 9:35
Man,
It should be very good relations even experience of civility, politeness, even in New York. I think it's unfortunate that here in Curitiba, as well as here in New York these rules of good relations in social life do not occur more naturally. People tend to surprise someone who is sorry, that is so courteous ... lol
Now I am in doubt and inferiority complex that explains or incivility is proud and feel "superior" even!? Anyway Viva politeness, always! \ O /
Jehoshaphat Chrysostom
January 18, 10 at 10:05
Hello! I am Portuguese and read your text smiled and thought we were (Portuguese), they "took us" complex! Regrettably, here is the same, only I call it lack of education ... Thanks for your great text!
Ginasol
January 18, 10 at 14:31
to-the-king! I agree with you Nilzo. From now on, I will read your articles ...
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January 18, 10 at 16:00
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19 January 10 at 8:25
If you live in a small town, maybe vivenciasse anymore. Here in my town of 25,000 inhabitants, all license request, apologize and greet those who drive them away. I thought, until five minutes ago that this thing was inside. But as New Yorkers are like that, I do not know that "standard" find, lol.
Fernanda
January 19, 10 at 22:36
I agree fully with the Master of Rose. Here in Portugal, our coplexo is still larger and more comes back.
FULFILLMENT him with friendly greetings. Just do not know him personally by chance. I had a teacher of Yoga: Maria Luisa Reis, Palma, Silvia Andrade and Marina. All his disciples. Of course I'm talking about Portugal. A hug. Master of Rose, kite A.Deodato
Antonio Deodato Baptist kite
January 20, 10 at 14:48
The truth is that it happens to me.
But to the contrary.
I often apologize and leave, and as my girlfriend says, I apologize too much.
Even things that are not my responsibility to make me apologize.
But back to the text, I think I agree with you even more when I appreciate something home to my house, and she gets a bit embarrassed and says thank you do not have anything.
Hugs!
Eduardo Rocha
21 January 10 at 4:13
Dear Jehoshaphat, sorry for all this delay in approving your comment, but I've been away from blog for a while.
The "feel superior" to me, hide insecurity. I realize that people who are superior in truth are very polite, detached and affordable.
A big hug and thanks for reading!
Nilzo Andrade Jr.
July 28, 10 at 18:30
Thanks for reading, Ginasol! And sorry for all this delay in accepting your comment!
Nilzo Andrade Jr.
July 28, 10 at 18:30
thanks for reading, Fernanda!
Nilzo Andrade Jr.
July 28, 10 at 18:31
Thanks for reading, Antonio.
When you have the opportunity, get to know him personally. You will be even more delighted.
Abs Nilzo!
Nilzo Andrade Jr.
July 28, 10 at 18:33
Dear Eduardo, thanks for reading and sorry for all this delay in the review.
Best regards!
Nilzo Andrade Jr.
July 28, 10 at 18:36